In the next few days, it all came out. He said they had been having an affair for 4 years and I was shocked for days. I went through a rollercoaster of emotions. No one told me that infidelity shakes your core, and you don’t even have the strength to kick him out. I had to keep up the act because of the kids. We did not tell them. They were too young. I just had to pick myself up and go on with my life. Just as every woman does.
I never told anyone about it except my mother. She told me to fight for him if I loved him. Another truth no one talks about – he won’t cheat on you with someone better, sexier. They usually cheat on someone average-looking or someone of low moral values.
Most importantly – it is not your fault he cheated. He did it because he isn’t loyal, and something is wrong with him. He foolishly believes some fantasy of banging his secretary will help him. After a while, I found out he just liked cheating on women.
The problem was in his core, and he crumbled in front of me – I even felt sorry for him. I wanted so badly to fix him, ad it took years for us to recover.
It was rough, and we have been through hell until we finally recovered. What I learned is that it takes a strong woman to stay. Our marriage rose from ashes and was built on honesty and mutual respect.
