The money is in trusts that I don’t have legal access to. To try to do anything would involve (technically) suing minor children to harass my sister-in-law and the legal firm into trying to invalidate a valid will, which would be cruel and pointless. Yes, I agree that it’s unfair, but it’s also not my fault.
Their mother is why they’re not in the will, not me. I’m not going to pretend to know why she did it, and I don’t have any personal feelings about her. She’s always been a devoted mother to her kids, which is the only thing I cared about. The rest of her private life is her own business, and this is ultimately her responsibility.
I told them to take it up with her, and now they’re even angrier that I’m “talking bad about their mother” and are blasting me to everyone that will hear that I’ve always played favorites (not true) and that I’m not doing anything because I got what I “always wanted” (doubly not true). I don’t want to lose them or cause more pain over something that I had no part in. AITA?